I'm not one to complain, but it seems no matter what we as dads do to prove ourselves to be capable and equal partners in the raising of our children someone has to come along and spit in our faces. And I'm not talking spit up from our kids, I'm talking about some media outlet or some company with some brilliant marketing campaign that just needs to come right up to us, hock a loogie and gob over everything we as dads are trying to do.
Now, I don't want to call people stupid, but if you're so daft that you don't realize that your words or commercials or corporate image not only infuriates dads but also incenses millions of moms, well you might be in need of an education of where the real world is heading.
What is my point? I'm glad you asked...
My point is this: we don't live in the 1950's, 60's, 70's, 80's or 90's. We don't live in the year 2000, and we don't even live in 2010. We live in 2012. And, in 2012, dads aren't dumb asses. We cook, we clean, and we care for our kids. If we don't, it's more likely than not that somebody is interfering with our willingness to do such things- like a berating, controlling spouse who nitpicks at everything we do, or a newspaper article that refers to us as secondary caregivers or "babysitters" to our own children, or conglomerates that create commercials that make us feel like assholes. It's like dads are the idiots of the parenting world. But, if we're so dumb, how is it that we're picking up on your condescension, and telling you we're not going to take it anymore?
Here's the cold hard reality as I see it. You (certain moms, the media, governments, corporations) want us to step up our game and be the best that we can be, but you can’t shut up long enough to stop making fun of us to give us credibility of any kind. You want to make fun of us? Fine, perpetuate the stereotype of dad as the baffoon and guess what, that’s exactly what we'll give you. You want to paint a picture that most moms are hard done by because they get no help from dads, great, but just remember you reap what you sow; you get what you pay for; you make the bed you sleep in.
Many (and I agree, not all) dads are more than capable of handling the responsibilities of parenthood. They want it. They need it. They love it. But what they don’t want is to have to deal with a bunch of misguided people defining who they are based on some bullshit, at a glance analysis. “Dad’s aren’t as attuned to their children as moms,” “Dad’s aren’t as attentive as Moms,” “Dad’s don’t have breasts or a vagina, or a sensitivity to the needs of a helpless screaming child,” and they certainly can’t run a household, right?
Wrong! Dads are capable. We can do a lot of things, but we don’t want to deal with the bullshit. So, if you want to tell us we can’t run a household, we’re just going to let YOU do it. If you tell us we can’t schedule our kids, or plan appointments, or manage our time, we just won’t then.
Let’s call it like it is: you want good men to be great dads then tell moms, the media, the government, and corporate America to get the f@#& out of their way and let them show that, given the opportunity, they are the next best thing to sliced bread. And that stuff rocks!
Stop being part of the f@#%ing problem and start being part of the f@#&ing solution.
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