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It's time to Fodder Up! This week's installment: Helping New Dads Manage the Emotional Roller Coaster that is Fatherhood . It's a game of respect, and you've gotta earn it... every inch of the way.
Here's what you need to succeed:
1) A GAME PLAN:
No man is equipped to take the mental and physical brow beating of first-time fatherhood, but there are several things you can do to prepare yourself to take the hits and keep coming back for more:
i) Read the playbook:
- What to Expect The First Year - THE MANUAL FOR SUCCESS!
- Dad Blogs- read, learn, interact, get support
- Dad Anti-Natal Groups/Classes - Find one in your area
Parenting well means keeping your eye on the prize, and resolving yourself to never waiver, and do everything it takes to take that football (the baby you're cradling in your arms) to the endzone (college, marriage, success). The second you lose focus, the whole game plan goes to sh@#, and it's your job to make sure that doesn't happen.
i) Player Relations:
3) A DRIVE TO SUCCEED:
The old "college try" doesn't amount to a "hill of beans" when it comes to raising your kids. Do you have the guts to go all the way? Are you in it to win it, or just going through the motions? That is what you're going to find out. If you ask me, you don't have guts until you're elbow deep in diarrhea, covered in puke, and rocking a colicky baby back to sleep for the fourth night in a row with no end in sight. But you have to find it in you to be more machine than man, and that's what wins the game! Society doesn't think you can do it, but your teammates (your wife and child) are counting on you. The clock is ticking. Get in there and make it happen!
i) Surmounting your obstacles:
You have the tools. You have the will. And you have the determination. Now, go and fight for your right to be on that field! And, don't take sh@# from anybody (no really, tell your wife to stick that dirty diaper in the Diaper Genie herself).
Show everyone, your wife, your parents, her parents, society, and, most importantly, your child, that you're the man they all "hoped" you would be.
Disclaimer: This post is intended to help new dads find the resources they need to become better fathers. Fodder 4 Fathers merely provides third party links as examples and thus leaves it up to the reader's discretion as to which information they choose to trust and incorporate in to their lives. As such, Fodder 4 Father's will not be held liable for any information provided by third party links and the information they provide.