tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post5680293378843218297..comments2024-03-03T05:15:39.000-05:00Comments on Fodder 4 Fathers: FODDER OF THE WEEK: DADS 4 FAIR PLAY- JOIN THE CAUSE OR GET OUT OF THE WAYFodder 4 Fathershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11706710956015686399noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-56477990507346912712012-03-11T18:49:40.120-04:002012-03-11T18:49:40.120-04:00This takes me back to Sociology 101. A piece I wro...This takes me back to Sociology 101. A piece I wrote was along the same lines as "If we don't, it's more likely than not that somebody is interfering with our willingness to do such things." <br /><br />Bottom line is this: Too many Moms were rightfully complaining about their hubbies not stepping up to the plate. <br />As Adam rightly points out, that complaint was only valid for a number of years past the post women's lib hey-day. <br /><br />On the other hand, many started to feel threatened by our increasing competence in the caregiver role. It sounds far-fetched, I know. But he who feels it knows it. It's very real. Not only do competent daddy caregivers take away their luxury of being able to take the higher moral ground and therefore the right to complain. It also leaves quite a few mothers struggling to find their new roles in the household. <br /><br />We need more guys speaking out on this issue instead of thinking that it makes them sound like complaining wimps themselves. Women can't be super-moms and still keep all the work to themselves. They have to give up BOTH if the real goal is equality. Know what's going to happen if they don't adjust?<br /><br />Men will get off their butts instead of withdrawing, and start DOMINATING again within a new role in the household. Now THAT would be truly sad. I, for one, always maintained that male dominance was largely responsible for the shorter life-span of the male gender. I don't WANT to go back there.Rodney C. Davishttp://parentingtodaytips.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-72713012619483691662012-03-08T00:17:30.674-05:002012-03-08T00:17:30.674-05:00Hey, I'm with you. We're told to "ste...Hey, I'm with you. We're told to "step up" and then we're told to "step aside."BloggerFatherhttp://www.bloggerfather.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-7623774069045179152012-03-06T20:36:13.100-05:002012-03-06T20:36:13.100-05:00I TOTALLY agree! It's a shame, but it's a ...I TOTALLY agree! It's a shame, but it's a fact. Men have to work twice as hard at home and women have to work twice as hard at work I guess...and when it comes down to it, those wasting the time judging don't deserve the time we spend worrying about it! As long as our children know, that IS all that matters! I nominated you for The Sunshine Award on my blog today...BECAUSE you are so capable!<br />http://anothertiredmommy.blogspot.com/2012/03/yay-sunshine-award.htmlAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03085275382498597298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-78068535019681897482012-03-05T20:24:36.342-05:002012-03-05T20:24:36.342-05:00I think just like there are some dads who are idio...I think just like there are some dads who are idiots, there may just be an equal amount of moms who are idiots as well. The problem is perception. But dads like you, me, and John from DiC (among man others) are working to fix that.<br /><br />Society and the media continue to perpetuate these misperceptions about the clueless dad who has no idea what he's doing, who is lost without his wife who constantly rolls her eyes at her moron husband. But we continue to laugh and watch.<br /><br />But things are changing... I'm sure you watch Up All Night, or have at least seen it. Will Arnett's character in the SAHD. And he's competent, loving, and organized. Sure his character has amusing flaws. But the producers and writers of this comedy chose to portray the dad as capable and nurturing. <br /><br />I'll take that as a victory.Daddy Knows Lesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15703414937384078870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-60745739671043911952012-03-05T00:58:37.791-05:002012-03-05T00:58:37.791-05:00The Children's Project - How To Raise Emotiona...The Children's Project - How To Raise Emotionally Healthy Children applauds you for saying it like it is! Family as a Learning Community definitely exists in your home. Congratulations!Deborah Newmark - The Children's Projecthttp://emotioallyhealthychildren.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-15374681085933986782012-03-01T11:26:26.325-05:002012-03-01T11:26:26.325-05:00The sad reality is that there are baffoons among u...The sad reality is that there are baffoons among us that DO make us look incompetent. What's the saying " one bad apple spoils the bunch" or something like that. We know we are capable, and as long as my kids know I am capable, that's all I really care about. It's sad, but EVERYTHING in life gets a stereotype. We just need to look past them.Daddy's in Charge?https://www.blogger.com/profile/04798934647553198219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-55690827450884876412012-03-01T11:00:01.303-05:002012-03-01T11:00:01.303-05:00Love this! And I totally agree with you - SAHDs do...Love this! And I totally agree with you - SAHDs don't get the credit that they deserve. I have met more and more of them through blogging, and I respect each and every one of you! <br /><br />:)Non-Stop Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11019977789459727121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-70376532270750921662012-03-01T10:01:37.921-05:002012-03-01T10:01:37.921-05:00Well, you didn't offend me because I get where...Well, you didn't offend me because I get where you're coming from. It's all part of media stereotype. Men will probably always be joked about as being doofuses who have NO idea what to do with kids, just like women will always be the ones in laundry commercials, cooking commercials, baking commercials and generally taking care of the kids (and being naggy)- when we all know that not ALL moms are like that. Not all moms are the cookie-cutter perfect mom, and not all Dads are completely clueless when it comes to the needs for a child. It sells shit to think of things that way though, or the companies sure seem to think so.Holdin' Holdenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14701050468419244513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-79479764795598090052012-03-01T06:22:21.833-05:002012-03-01T06:22:21.833-05:00Ok...now you got me all worked up!
Great post! :)...Ok...now you got me all worked up! <br />Great post! :)Henry Amador-Battenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12155978466385646800noreply@blogger.com