Image Courtesy of Batman: A Death in the Family
Now, I will admit, my perception of the world is skewed by my upbringing. I have lived many lives with many different father "figures," none what you would call "superstars." I've known the sting of abuse- mostly verbal; occasionally physical; always detrimental- but I choose to channel my life experiences in to something positive. I could easily repeat the sins of my fathers, but I chose to follow a different path instead. Anyone who follows this blog will attest to the fact that I always try to see the positive when it comes to parenting; I always try to find the humor in even the most trying of situations. But, it's not easy. Nothing about parenting is easy.
Life is about choices. We each choose how to raise our children, much like we each choose how to perceive the world around us. I choose to look at the world logically, methodically, and whimsically whereas someone else may interpret their world emotionally, angrily, and judgmentally. These are merely choices we make for how we choose to live our lives, right and wrong.
Now, some people make REALLY bad choices. These people choose to ignore the laws of morality and decency and society and do things that the rest of us could never imagine ourselves doing to or in front of our children; their children. They try to hide these acts from the rest of us so they will not be judged for their actions, but thankfully, many are found out and brought to justice before it is too late for the child. However, many are not. Many children are lost both physically and emotionally, never to be found again.
|If only child abusers were this easy to spot|
THE IMAGE IN QUESTION (Note: This link will take you to an image that suggests an illegal act. Please be advised that the image may be disturbing).
Would I do it again? Yes. Would I do it a little differently next time? Sure. That's the beauty of choice. And if posting an image that made hundreds of parents sit up and get emotional about the idea of child abuse makes me the villain, I can live with that. I can sooner live with it than knowing that I didn't post the image when I knew in my heart that I was making the right choice. The conversation is always necessary.
CHILD ABUSE STATISTICS
I'm not an activist. I'm not an opportunist (as some believe), and I'm not the anti-Christ. I'm just a dad with a blog trying to do some good simply by being a great father to his child. I'm not a hero, but I'm not the villain either. We can't ignore the dark side of life if we are to prepare ourselves and our children for the dangers of the real world. We can't just sweep images of child abuse under the rug. We have to look, long and hard, at the realities of who can harm our children (the real villains) so we may protect them.
That's not a choice. If you’re a parent, that's your job!