LEAVE NO MAN BEHIND

LEAVE NO MAN BEHIND

Hello and welcome to a strange new world. You have traveled far through the desert, only to be met time and again by one empty oasis after another. You are lost and alone, wandering, wondering if someone, anyone, knows how you feel. And just when you think you can't go on, and no one could possibly understand your struggle, a hand reaches out to you, lifts you to your feet, and carries you to the promised land. He feeds you knowledge, shelters you from the self-righteous (and the ridiculous), and provides you with the tools you need to survive in this brave new world. You are a stranger in a strange land, but you are not alone. Let him be your guide. Follow closely as you travel together on this adventure of a lifetime. For now, you are a foreigner to "Fatherhood" but soon YOU will be the master of this realm.

"No Man is Expendable!"

This is Fodder 4 Fathers...

FODDER OF THE WEEK: THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A DUMBASS DAD ... NO MATTER WHAT YOUR MOTHER TELLS YOU- WHY NEW DADS ARE SMARTER THAN THEY LOOK

Image Courtesy of The Simpsons

Ladies, we all know that you don't really understand the inner workings of a man's mind. Frankly, we count on it.  And, well, if "The greatest trick the Devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist," (The Usual Suspects, 1995) than the smartest thing a husband (and more importantly, a first-time father) ever did was to play dumb... about everything.


You see, we're (men, collectively) actually not as dumb as we look (except maybe during intercourse). We play dumb to serve our own cause- self-preservation. Because, at the end of the day, all a man really wants is to keep the peace so his wife goes to bed happy (and early) so he can stay up late to watch porn... err, sports. We just don't care for drama. So when we drive you home from the hospital, after having a baby, we make a conscious decision... to play dumb.

Why? So we don't have to deal with your insecurities. As dads, WE KNOW we don't know a thing about parenting. We're just smart enough not to point out the obvious- NEITHER DO YOU!!!

"Shhh. Don't Tell Mommy."
We're not dumb. We were smart enough to let you plan the wedding and stay out of your way; you think we're going to start stepping on your toes now? Sure, you look all calm and collected on the surface, but, like a duck on a pond, we know how much effort it's taking just for you to keep your head above water. Let's be honest, any moron could tell you the only thing more fragile than a newborn baby is a mom’s ego, so we just let you take over- because anything else would just be stupid.

Out of fairness, we try to treat all your friends with the same respect.  Because, frankly,  the only thing more fragile than the ego of a new mom is the ego of an experienced one. And, while telling Sally down the street that "What to Expect When You're Expecting" contradicts every single piece of advice that comes out of her mouth might be fun, having her world implode would just leave a big mess for HER husband to clean up, and that wouldn’t be nice. So, we play dumb.

Sure, we read the same books you do (when you’re not looking) and we slyly bookmark the best parenting websites on our computers, but we don’t want to tell you this because it will just make you feel bad. After all, your mom spent your entire pregnancy telling you how useless your dad was during the whole process, so why would we want to destroy such a brilliant brainwashing attempt on her part? After all, if you actually thought we could handle the baby on our own, you’d be out golfing and we’d be stuck at home with the kids. But we can. We just don’t want to steal your thunder.

You think we’re dumb. So we let you think we’re dumb. You sit trying haplessly to get the baby to suckle from your breast; we learn proper latching techniques on YouTube. You sterilize every single bottle to kill all the germs; we do a half-assed job of washing the same bottles because we did the research and you were only supposed to do that for the first FEW MONTHS! But we know our place, and its right by your side making you feel like you’re the best mother in the world. So, the next time you want to chastise your “better half” for his inability to pour exactly 4 ounces of liquid in to a cup, you may just want to stop and think to yourself  “is he f—king with me?” because, odds are,  he is, just to entertain himself.

How dumb are first time dads? Dumb enough to tell you our secrets, but smart enough to be there with a helping hand whenever the “wiser” parent falters. All we know is that we know nothing, and we’re okay with that.

It’s a dad thing.


 The Times They Are A-Changin'
(Eddie Vedder Performing a Bob Dylan Classic)


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