Hello and welcome to a strange new world. You have traveled far through the desert, only to be met time and again by one empty oasis after another. You are lost and alone, wandering, wondering if someone, anyone, knows how you feel. And just when you think you can't go on, and no one could possibly understand your struggle, a hand reaches out to you, lifts you to your feet, and carries you to the promised land. He feeds you knowledge, shelters you from the self-righteous (and the ridiculous), and provides you with the tools you need to survive in this brave new world. You are a stranger in a strange land, but you are not alone. Let him be your guide. Follow closely as you travel together on this adventure of a lifetime. For now, you are a foreigner to "Fatherhood" but soon YOU will be the master of this realm.

"No Man is Expendable!"

This is Fodder 4 Fathers...

This Wasn't In the Brochure?: The Hardest Part About Being a New Dad

The experience of first time fatherhood is different for each of us. What some deem as hard work, others take to with the utmost proficiency. It's not rocket science, being a dad (although some would lead you to believe that) but there is a steep learning curve that like any roller coaster will take you up and down and then loop you around. Having kids is easy (from a man's perspective anyway). The more difficult experience is raising them.

But what is the hardest part of having/raising kids? Is it the sleepless nights? The midnight feedings? The constant crying? The struggle to meet all of your day-to-day obligations? The financial burden associated with everything baby? The structured schedule you are afraid to deviate from? The battle for who is the better parent between you or your wife? Is it the weariness that you feel; that feeling that you can't go on for another day? The worry that you're just not cutting it as a parent? The fear that all parents face, wondering what they would do if anything ever happened to the most important person in their lives? Am I even in the ball park? I don't pretend to be you, so all I can do is surmise an educated, estimated guess.

Again, it's different for everyone, as each of us struggles with this newfound responsibility in their own unique way. But if you ask me, the hardest thing about being a parent (father in this case) is having to leave my daughter every morning to go to work and missing out on her day. But, that's just me.

So the real question is: what's the hardest part of being a "new" parent (let's hear from the new and more experienced Moms too) for you? 

Here's a few interesting articles/blog posts/surveys to get you started:
  • http://www.apparenting.com/whats_the_toughest_thing_about_being_a_father.html (link)
  • http://www.aceshowbiz.com/news/view/00041348.html (link
  • http://kevinrossen.com/personal/hardest-part-of-being-a-new-dad/(link)
  • http://toryandtegan.com/2008/02/the-hardest-thing/(link
  • http://babybump.alt12.com/community/groups/114-june-2011/polls/3489-whats-the-hardest-part-about-being-a-new-parent-getting-up-during-the-night-when-the-baby-cries-/results (link)

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