The experience of first time fatherhood is different for each of us. What some deem as hard work, others take to with the utmost proficiency. It's not rocket science, being a dad (although some would lead you to believe that) but there is a steep learning curve that like any roller coaster will take you up and down and then loop you around. Having kids is easy (from a man's perspective anyway). The more difficult experience is raising them.
But what is the hardest part of having/raising kids? Is it the sleepless nights? The midnight feedings? The constant crying? The struggle to meet all of your day-to-day obligations? The financial burden associated with everything baby? The structured schedule you are afraid to deviate from? The battle for who is the better parent between you or your wife? Is it the weariness that you feel; that feeling that you can't go on for another day? The worry that you're just not cutting it as a parent? The fear that all parents face, wondering what they would do if anything ever happened to the most important person in their lives? Am I even in the ball park? I don't pretend to be you, so all I can do is surmise an educated, estimated guess.
Again, it's different for everyone, as each of us struggles with this newfound responsibility in their own unique way. But if you ask me, the hardest thing about being a parent (father in this case) is having to leave my daughter every morning to go to work and missing out on her day. But, that's just me.
So the real question is: what's the hardest part of being a "new" parent (let's hear from the new and more experienced Moms too) for you?
Here's a few interesting articles/blog posts/surveys to get you started:
- http://www.apparenting.com/whats_the_toughest_thing_about_being_a_father.html (link)
- http://www.aceshowbiz.com/news/view/00041348.html (link)
- http://babybump.alt12.com/community/groups/114-june-2011/polls/3489-whats-the-hardest-part-about-being-a-new-parent-getting-up-during-the-night-when-the-baby-cries-/results (link)