Hello and welcome to a strange new world. You have traveled far through the desert, only to be met time and again by one empty oasis after another. You are lost and alone, wandering, wondering if someone, anyone, knows how you feel. And just when you think you can't go on, and no one could possibly understand your struggle, a hand reaches out to you, lifts you to your feet, and carries you to the promised land. He feeds you knowledge, shelters you from the self-righteous (and the ridiculous), and provides you with the tools you need to survive in this brave new world. You are a stranger in a strange land, but you are not alone. Let him be your guide. Follow closely as you travel together on this adventure of a lifetime. For now, you are a foreigner to "Fatherhood" but soon YOU will be the master of this realm.

"No Man is Expendable!"

This is Fodder 4 Fathers...


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If I can be accused of anything (in terms of the information I provide), its not "skirting" the important issues as they pertain to parenthood. I don't dance around the truth- if anything, I like to tell it like it is. If you're looking for some flowery forum on the joys of changing diapers, you've come to the wrong place. Treat others as you would like to be treated, I say, and as a father who takes his role seriously, I want only two things: 1) the honest, ugly at times, truth, and 2) the deserved recognition that has eluded a new breed of fathers for years. Two things I have yet to find in most of the so-called "parenting" magazines (save one which you will find me supporting regularly).

So I ask the plethora of publications pandering to a new population of parents: How can you call yourself a "parenting" magazine if you cater mostly to mothers??? You're not fooling anybody with your recipes for how to make the perfect spinach salad for mommy group or your disappointing discussions on how to find the perfect head band for your baby- we all know who your target audience is, and, well, that hurts our feelings (the stay at home dads and the first-time fathers that deserve to be recognized for their efforts).  How are we supposed to feel like we are valued when you marginalize us on every page with your ads for nipple cream and your editorials on "how to deal with his meddling mother (as if yours is a prize)?"

Why don't you just come out and say it: "Dads, you're not worth our time because there's no money in it for us!" Sure, I applaud the efforts of an emerging group of father bloggers who do a fantastic job of pontificating the plight of New Dads, but we are just one small voice versus the thousands, if not millions, of compensated mommy bloggers that drown us out on every on-line outlet. Do you really think we don't get the pervasive message you are sending us... Mom's are important; Dads are an after-thought.

Am I insane for putting this on paper- possibly, as it will insure that I will never be approached to contribute commentary to any of these exclusive mediums, but that's not a worry of mine. What I do worry about is the message being sent to all the hard-working, hands-on fathers that feel like their contribution (beyond their genetic material) is unnecessary and/or unappreciated- not by their wives but by an industry and a society that doesn't see the dollar value in dad-dedicated diatribes (like this one).

So to all the "parenting" publications that choose to ignore the coming trend, what I call the "Fatherhood N' Force" movement, you are missing a great opportunity to reach an emerging market that has strength in numbers. Call yourselves whatever you want but "Parenting" is a word us fathers take very seriously and we don't appreciate your definition of the term, and we plan on reclaiming it very soon.

You've ignored us for too long, and we're not going to take it anymore!


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  1. Mumsnet (by parents for parents) and their feminist section in the forums. Makes for some interesting reading!

  2. *golf claps*
    keep doing what you do darlin!
    If you need a mommys voice you sure have my big mouthed one in your corner!