tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post2296446179704982614..comments2024-03-03T05:15:39.000-05:00Comments on Fodder 4 Fathers: Settling in to Fatherhood The Only Way I Know HowFodder 4 Fathershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11706710956015686399noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-36298621003384159362012-09-14T02:08:00.720-04:002012-09-14T02:08:00.720-04:00Great post. Preach On!
If I can address your fir...Great post. Preach On!<br /><br />If I can address your first commentor's concerns:<br />Consider this incident to be the equivalent to falling off of a horse, or being bitten by a friend's dog (which happened to me), and know that subsequent opportunities to do some sole caring for the baby should be supported, just like Jimmy mentioned. Be sure to include encouragement. If he is unwilling to speak to you about it, then there may be some shame or personal disappointment involved in how he handled the situation. If he has some dad friends, encourage them to be a support to him and get him talking about the things that are going on with him and your baby and his ex. I believe that he has a good dad inside him, he just needs to learn how to tap into it. <br />The Dad-Blogger universe it at your disposal! Use us! <br />;-) <br />-JBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-67316693114045292822012-08-30T20:47:08.268-04:002012-08-30T20:47:08.268-04:00My kids are 6, 5 and 4 and my husband was a stay a...My kids are 6, 5 and 4 and my husband was a stay a home dad for 5 years. He was WAY better at it than I am. He went back to work and I stay home now. He had the hard part, 3 kids in diapers, 3 who needed help with EVERYTHING. Keep up the good work.Kraus House Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11202341154461834446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-4677466315226414532012-08-14T00:51:48.973-04:002012-08-14T00:51:48.973-04:00First off, some people are naturals when it comes ...First off, some people are naturals when it comes to babies (both moms and dads). Others are not. Myself, I never held a baby before my daughter was born, but something about caring for her just seemed totally natural to me. But she was easy. Not all babies are. Regarding this incident... I too would be a little weary to leave him alone with the baby, but that shouldn't stop you from taking a few afternoons of being totally hands off and letting him be in charge so you can monitor how he conducts himself (just say you're there, but you're not there). Try it a few times and if he seems to be getting the hang of it without getting frustrated (the more he does it the more confidence he will get) start leaving him for an hour, then two hours, but no more than 3 until he requests it. Hey, I even had one afternoon where my wife left me with a hungry 2 month old but no formula. I too was ready to lose it. Maybe it was an isolated event? But you got to get him back at it and fast. I had the one bad day, but not another one since. See what he's up for, but don't force it. He has to want to do it and be able to admit he may need to learn a few coping strategies for when the baby cries if he's going to be successful at it. Hope that helps. Every kid is different and so is every parent. It's all trial and error. You just have to set him up for success. Baby steps, right?- AdamFodder 4 Fathershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11706710956015686399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-764041168151820066.post-10547742417639373382012-08-13T02:29:47.586-04:002012-08-13T02:29:47.586-04:00F4F - I could not agree with you more!!! so may I ...F4F - I could not agree with you more!!! so may I ask you for some advice - we have a 14week old, my 4th preg/child - my partners 2nd (though his ex left when the baby was 6mth and he has only been able to see the child 3 times within the last 7 yrs)<br />I know how my partner hurts for missing out on all the time with his other son so i am completely open to him doing as much as possible with our son - I went to have a mummy manicure when bub was 6 weeks - leaving him in dads capable hands for 3 hrs - when i get home, dad has become so frustrated he has been yelling at the baby (neighbors told me) then he even smashed the baby's bottle on the floor because bub was crying. I asked him if he was ok and I would take bub so he could have a break - I have tried to talk to him about this incident and he becomes defensive and dismissive. I am uneasy leaving bub for any period of time with him now. How do I approach a frustrated Dad without offending/belittling him?? Thanks for any advice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com